"Ah, another truth: Men really want 20-year-olds until reality sets in and they have to settle for Talky McAge-Appropriate. Bummer. Here’s a thing, and it’s nothing against Rudder directly or his work, which I think does have inherent value. I’m just tired of hearing what men’s preferences are. I’m just no longer interested in hearing what men prefer if they’re given all the best options. I’m tired of how we talk about it, like, as if it actually matters, or that we’d even all instantly become permanently 20 if we could in the first place. As if their feelings are some high bar we can never quite measure up to and must live with and muddle through somehow."

Tracy Moore on the OKCupid chart that “proves” men of all ages only want to date 20-year-olds. (via hello-the-future)

oh my god this is beautiful

oh my god this is beautiful

(Source: isabellaandliam, via hoop-skirts-and-corsets)

water-mee:

nickcavemurderedme:

#ObjectifyingNickCave2k14

Yummmm

sometimes I say “nick cave is not for looking at” and sometimes I am wrong

Last night I tried on this kind of amazing wig and took some selfies as the Beauty Queen Autopsy character. The discussion on my personal fb was sweet but kinda silly as *everyone* felt the need to point out that I’m always pretty. The fact is, as Unwoman I do glamorous/weird/anachronistic, and beauty is part of it, but I could never be mistook for a beauty queen with a curly mohawk or a tattered corset. Beauty queens by their very definition require looking good to everyone with high enough status (in a largely white-supremacist & patriarchal capitalist society) to judge them. This ends up being very WASP-y (in a narrower way even than my European genes determine), inoffensive, thin, high-end without being avant-garde… not really things I’m trying to conform to normally, but certainly interesting to experiment with. Matt writes lyrics from this great perspective of a hot proudly sexually liberated woman. I have no fucking clue how he does it, but as someone who kinda identifies as that, I fully endorse his take on that, which is one reason this collaboration works so well. It’s important to me that my character have a backstory and nuance. I don’t want this to be just another dead fallen angel. She has real personal power that’s not just the conventionally acceptable beauty that gets erroneously called power. Every time she exerts her agency is a nice “fuck you” to the people who would rather see her lying cold on a slab… which in Hollywood would be the appropriate punishment for being as untamed as she is. Yet, visually, she’s coming from a place of pure conformity, as perhaps someone who as a young woman was told beauty was power.Also I’m kind of in love with Lana Del Rey who I wish would address some of these issues too but I guess it’s up to us.-Erica

Last night I tried on this kind of amazing wig and took some selfies as the Beauty Queen Autopsy character. The discussion on my personal fb was sweet but kinda silly as *everyone* felt the need to point out that I’m always pretty. The fact is, as Unwoman I do glamorous/weird/anachronistic, and beauty is part of it, but I could never be mistook for a beauty queen with a curly mohawk or a tattered corset. Beauty queens by their very definition require looking good to everyone with high enough status (in a largely white-supremacist & patriarchal capitalist society) to judge them. This ends up being very WASP-y (in a narrower way even than my European genes determine), inoffensive, thin, high-end without being avant-garde… not really things I’m trying to conform to normally, but certainly interesting to experiment with. 

Matt writes lyrics from this great perspective of a hot proudly sexually liberated woman. I have no fucking clue how he does it, but as someone who kinda identifies as that, I fully endorse his take on that, which is one reason this collaboration works so well. 

It’s important to me that my character have a backstory and nuance. I don’t want this to be just another dead fallen angel. She has real personal power that’s not just the conventionally acceptable beauty that gets erroneously called power. Every time she exerts her agency is a nice “fuck you” to the people who would rather see her lying cold on a slab… which in Hollywood would be the appropriate punishment for being as untamed as she is. Yet, visually, she’s coming from a place of pure conformity, as perhaps someone who as a young woman was told beauty was power.

Also I’m kind of in love with Lana Del Rey who I wish would address some of these issues too but I guess it’s up to us.


-Erica

misskittyfantastico:

Unwoman covering ‘In Your Eyes.’ Besides everything with kellysue, this was one of my favorite things that happened at Dragon Con this year.

Also, you can occasionally hear my fabulous roommates singing along with the song.

mostlysignssomeportents:

The term cobra effect stems from an anecdote set at the time of British rule of colonial India. The British government was concerned about the number of venomous cobra snakes in Delhi.[3] The government therefore offered a bounty for every dead cobra. Initially this was a successful strategy as large numbers of snakes were killed for the reward. Eventually, however, enterprising persons began to breed cobras for the income. When the government became aware of this, the reward program was scrapped, causing the cobra breeders to set the now-worthless snakes free. As a result, the wild cobra population further increased. The apparent solution for the problem made the situation even worse.

a similar story, about rats, was part of the inspiration for my song “Bred for the Bounty”

(via kadrey)

amberbensonwrotethis:

I have tried to write this post twice and each time Tumblr has deleted it. I am trying one final time.

I am 37 yrs old. Do I want to have a baby or not? This is a question I ask myself time and time again.

I am an artist. I am independent and creative and intelligent and I love making things. It…

This is, more or less, where I’m at, just about to turn 34, though honestly for me the conflict isn’t as much about being an artist+mom as it is about the fact that I can’t find a partner who understands my need to be both artist and, eventually-soon, a mom. Every year I say, this is the year I’ll figure out who I’m having babies with. Every year I fail to find this person; though I’m having beautiful romances in the meantime they are not with serious partners who want to be co-parents with me. I’ve been told I’m shopping in the wrong market, that people in SF don’t want kids and people in NYC do, for example, but SF is my permanent home.

this is the real talk and it’s very personal and I haven’t blogged about personal things in years but I think I need to be brave about sharing the difficult stuff now.

Beauty Queen Autopsy Kickstarter Now Up!!

dj-kantrip:

Beauty Queen Autopsy is a joint collaboration between Caustic’s Matt Fanale and Unwoman’s Erica Mulkey.  It is one of the most unique sounds I have heard in years and both of their EPs on bandcamp are worth a download and listen.

Go back this amazing project on Kickstarter now!

https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/unwoman/beauty-queen-autopsy-lotharia-full-length-debut

"I don’t typically watch “highbrow TV” per say. But I will say, as a transgender woman it can be pretty disappointing or at least annoying when I watch a brilliantly written show like 30Rock or Bob’s Burgers and then the onslaught of “tranny hooker” jokes come pouring in. I’m all for irreverent comedy, and I’m not even so much offended as a trans person as much as I’m offended by the stale material. I just feel like the “tranny hooker” thing is a little hack at this point. It feels very ’80s."

— Bailey Jay, http://www.sundance.tv/series/the-approval-matrix/blog/2014/08/5-questions-with-transsexual-adult-entertainer-bailey-jay (via zerosociety)

On November 2, 2011 my contribution to Oakland’s General Strike was cello music. The words to this song are from Voltairine de Cleyre's final poem. (a studio version of this song is free, here) (Later that night folks took over the port and I felt serious protest FOMO so I made sure not to be encumbered with my cello for the port shutdown that December.)

I was at an anti-police-violence/Ferguson solidary march last week — the third political action I’d attended in one week (and also in probably a year, eek) — and everyone was agreeing, this energy reminded them of when Occupy was happening. People are so much more likely to get in the streets and rise up when they know they’re not alone. Well, I’ll be there, friends. 

"Uncurse us the land"